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Relocation Stages

The decision to relocate

The tone for the relocation process is set by the way the decision was made, the reasons behind it and how realistic your expectations are.

Shock and honeymoon

Relocation can be an overwhelming experience. The need to make multiple changes during a relatively short time can cause a reaction of shock characterized by feeling of confusion and emotional paralysis. Shock can appear immediately upon arrival or after what I define as “honeymoon”. The honeymoon is a time when the excitement and pleasures of the relocation are fully experienced. Both the shock and the honeymoon are extreme reaction that will not last.

Reality kicks in: reorganization and survival

Daily routine begins to take precedence. The need to make sure that the children are in school, the family is taken care of and you are focusing on your job, force you to get up rather than surrendering to your emotional turmoil. This is the time when we start to make instinctive, positive steps toward adjusting to the new environment; learning the language, getting to know the immediate area, regaining some independence and mobility, getting to know people and trying to return to normal family life. During this period, you don’t have time to feel you just act.

 

Bargaining and doubts: comparison, idealization and homesickness

This is the time when we say, “alright, I know where, how and what, so why don’t I feel good, and why is it still so hard and not feel like home?” During this stage, loss is experienced and amplified. Feelings of anger, hopelessness, homesickness and doubts regarding the decision to move are common. These feelings are often projected onto the “hosts” in the form of harsh criticism and a negative attitude toward their culture.

 

Reintegration

You leave the bargaining mode and become better prepared to fight for your adjustment. This is the time when efforts to adjust take place: making new friends, finding the right place to live, looking for a community involvement and thinking about career opportunities. Issues related to your relationship with your native country, and you and your children’s cultural identity become more pressing and require your attention.

 

Adjustment

Adjustment to the new home occurs when you find a comfortable balance between what you perceive as your gains and your losses. You accept the changes impose on you by the relocation, appreciating some, while disliking others, and you continue to enjoy your life. Adjustment, however, does not necessarily mean that all your struggles are gone.

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